The Essential Guide to Bullying and Prevention, 1st Edition

  • Cynthia Lowen
  • Cindy Miller
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  • ISBN-10: 1101598069
  • ISBN-13: 9781101598061
  • DDC: 302.343
  • Grade Level Range: 12th Grade +
  • 304 Pages | eBook
  • Original Copyright 2012 | Published/Released February 2013
  • This publication's content originally published in print form: 2012

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Headlines are filled with tragic stories of senseless murders and suicides that have resulted from child and teen bullying. As social networking and technology add to the ways that kids can be bullied, parents feel powerless against this insidious force that compels even "good" kids to participate in or enable bullying in schools, in extracurricular activities, online, and at home. The Essential Guide to Bullying brings together the wisdom and experience of two people who have witnessed bullying's causes and tragic effects. School social worker Cindy Miller teams with Cynthia Lowen, the co-creator of the film Bully, to arm parents and teachers with the knowledge they need.

Table of Contents

Front Cover.
Title Page.
Copyright Page.
1: Twenty-First-Century Bullying.
2: What Is Bullying?.
3: Types of Bullying.
4: Verbal Bullying.
5: Physical Bullying.
6: Emotional Bullying.
7: Relational Bullying.
8: The Bullying Triangle.
9: Where Is It Happening?.
10: At School.
11: Online.
12: And Beyond.
13: Speaking the Same Language?.
14: Teasing vs. Bullying.
15: Conflict Is Normal.
16: Bullycide.
17: What's Behind Bullying Today?.
18: The Changing Family.
19: The Social Networking Generation: How Bullies Use Technology.
20: The Anonymity of the Internet.
21: Virtual Friendships.
22: Social Isolation.
23: The Acceptance of Violence.
24: Video Games: Kill for the Thrill.
25: Today's Media.
26: Role Models Gone Wild.
27: Lack of Accountability.
28: Understanding Bullies.
29: Who Uses Bullying Behaviors?.
30: Low-Status Bullies.
31: High-Status Bullies.
32: Socially Marginalized Bullies.
33: Characteristics That All Bullies Share.
34: How Gender Affects Bullying.
35: Boys Use Direct Forms of Bullying.
36: Girls Employ Indirect Forms of Bullying.
37: Why They Do It.
38: When the Home Is Run by a Bully.
39: When Bullying Gets You What You Want.
40: When Bullying Is Okay.
41: Underdeveloped Coping Skills.
42: Low Tolerance for Frustration.
43: When Aggression Is Hard-Wired.
44: When Behaviors Don't Grow Up, But People Do.
45: Understanding Targets.
46: Who Are the Targets?.
47: Passive Targets.
48: Provocative Targets.
49: Indirect Targets.
50: How Kids Signal Their Distress.
51: Nature vs. Nurture.
52: The Nature Part of the Emotional Equation.
53: The Nurture Part of the Emotional Equation.
54: When a Child Is “Different”.
55: Why Targets Don't Tell.
56: Where Does the Anger, Hurt, and Pain Go?.
57: When Targeted Kids Grow Up.
58: Understanding Bystanders.
59: Who Are Bystanders?.
60: The Silent Majority.
61: Bystanders Who Enjoy the Show.
62: Sidekicks and Wannabes.
63: Why They Don't Get Involved.
64: The Bystander Effect.
65: Diffusion of Responsibility.
66: Adults Are Bystanders, Too.
67: If You're Not Part of the Solution ….
68: Prevention.
69: Target Proofing Our Kids.
70: Assertion Is Not Aggression.
71: “Just Right” Responses in Social Situations.
72: Using Body Language and “I” Statements.
73: Body Language.
74: “I” Statements.
75: Teaching Conflict Resolution Skills.
76: Teaching Problem-Solving Skills.
77: Teaching Kids to Advocate for Themselves.
78: Building Relationships.
79: The Need to Belong.
80: Connecting Comes Naturally.
81: Kids Want to Contribute.
82: Encouraging Courage.
83: Building Academic Competence.
84: Interests, Talents, and Self-Confidence.
85: Creating Kid-Friendly Schools.
86: What Schools Must Do.
87: A Comprehensive, School-Wide Approach.
88: Acknowledging That There's a Problem.
89: Gathering Information.
90: Putting Policies and Programs in Place.
91: Kick-offs and Other Events.
92: Educating Students.
93: Keeping Parents Involved.
94: Maintaining a Safe Environment.
95: Physical Safety.
96: Social-Emotional Safety.
97: What School Counselors Can Do.
98: What Teachers Can Do.
99: In the Classroom.
100: Consistent Consequences.
101: Effective Classroom Management.
102: Encouraging Children to Report Concerns.
103: The Student-Teacher Relationship.
104: When Teachers Are Bullies.
105: Making Kids Cyberwise.
106: The Cybergeneration and Bullying.
107: Where Is It Happening?.
108: Who's Doing It?.
109: Who Are the Targets?.
110: Who Are the Bystanders?.
111: Understanding the Effects of Cyberbullying.
112: What Parents Can Do.
113: Engage Other Parents.
114: Report It to the School.
115: Take It to the Police.
116: Prevention = Knowledge + Boundaries.
117: For Parents.
118: For Kids.
119: Social-Emotional Learning and Character Development.
120: Acceptance vs. Tolerance and Appreciation of Others.
121: Caring, Forgiveness, and Generosity.
122: Be a Good Citizen.
123: Empathy and Social Awareness.
124: Everyone Needs Friends.
125: Be a Good Sport!.
126: Respect for Self and Others.
127: Self-Assertion.
128: Self-Awareness.
129: Self-Control.
130: Trustworthiness, Honesty, and Responsibility.
131: School Programs.
132: Intervention.
133: Assessing and Reporting.
134: Federal Laws: The Office for Civil Rights.
135: Bullying Prohibited by Title IX.
136: Who Is Responsible for Upholding Title IX.
137: All State Laws Aren't Made Equal.
138: Professional Development Requirements and Curriculum.
139: Enforcement from State to State.
140: State Laws and Youth with IEPs.
141: Cyberbullying Laws Have Teeth.
142: Bullying in the News and New Laws.
143: School Reporting Requirements.
144: The Bullying Specialist.
145: The Safe Schools Improvement Act.
146: Getting Help from Your Child's School.
147: How to Talk to Kids About Telling.
148: Kicking Off the Conversation.
149: Listen Before You Act.
150: The Who, When, and How of Telling.
151: When to Tell: Problem Solving Together.
152: How to Tell.
153: When It's Time for Parents to Get Involved.
154: How to Make a Report.
155: Preparing for the Meeting.
156: What Will Happen.
157: Taking Things to the Next Level.
158: Engaging the Bully's Parents or Guardian.
159: When Your Child Is the Bully.
160: Helping the Target.
161: The Long-Lasting Scars of Bullying.
162: Who Can Help.
163: Family Is Vital.
164: Coaches and Mentors.
165: Faith Communities.
166: Special-Needs Communities.
167: Other Parents and Peers.
168: How to Help.
169: Recognizing and Addressing Stress Signals.
170: Putting Your Child's Safety First.
171: Enhancing Friendship Skills.
172: Teaching Stress Management.
173: Fostering Resilience.
174: Practicing Situations.
175: More Ways That Schools Can Help Targets.
176: Counseling.
177: Helping the Bully.
178: Zero-Tolerance and Tough Love Policies.
179: At School.
180: At Home.
181: Family Involvement and Support.
182: My Child Would Never ….
183: Breaking Through Denial.
184: Raise and Discuss Your Concerns.
185: Setting Expectations and Increasing Accountability.
186: Replacement Behaviors.
187: Interventions at School.
188: Turning Bystanders Into Upstanders.
189: Who Can Stand Up, and How?.
190: Upstanders on the Front Lines.
191: Targets as Upstanders.
192: How Parents Can Stand Up.
193: School Staff Are Upstanders, Too.